Monday, March 7, 2016

Remember ladies, the wedding is not as important as the relationship.

May your marriage be as long as your bridal train.

I adore my future daughter-in-law. She has her priorities straight. Rather than focusing on a fancy, complicated wedding, she focuses on building a good relationship with my son. I appreciate that so much. Unfortunately, there are those “Bride-zilla” types out there who care more about their big day than the days that follow.

You know the type. They have whole reality shows written with them in mind. And please don't get me wrong. I know that there are many different kinds of people out there. I'm pretty much a “to each his own” person. I just feel like a lot of these girls are so focused on the wedding that they lose sight of the fact that the wedding only lasts a day, while the relationship and the groom will need attention for many years to come.

In other words, it's perfectly OK to have a nice wedding. And it really is your big day so it should be about what makes you and your groom or bride happy. But I feel it's just too easy to get so lost in planning the wedding that you forget that planning a happy, healthy, fulfilled life is more important.

Does it really matter what kind of cake you serve? Is the decor that important? And how about those symbolic rituals? Must they really be followed to the letter?

You know, it's kind of like those couples who get so excited about having a baby that they forget the responsibility that comes with it and that the baby isn't going to be small and cuddly forever. They're going to grow up and they're going to need help to become responsible adults. That takes a lot of work, just like relationships.

So ladies, please, have a beautiful wedding. Just don't forget about the rest. Because you'll be spending a lot more time in your relationship than you will at the altar. It should be your special day, absolutely. Just keep in mind that it's more important to have a special rest of your life and to help make your partner's life just as special.

1 comment:

  1. It is just insane how crazy the wedding market is. Every aspect is designed to keep focus on material things. I think so far we've done an okay job of keeping it about us- but it's really hard! Thank you for the compliment! Your son lights my world so it comes pretty easy!! xoxo love you! -Kas