First of all, you can't have one without the other. |
Sometimes I think people take this
whole negativity removal thing a bit too far. Negativity is a
powerful learning tool. As humans, we have a pretty basic learning
process. By experiencing the bad, we learn to appreciate the good and
make positive changes. But we are human, after all, aren't we? That
means we're not perfectly positive all the time ourselves. So, next
time you consider “un-friending” someone, ask yourself if their
infraction was intentional first.
If their behavior contained intentional
animosity toward you or someone you care for, you're probably better
off without them in your life. If it didn't, do your best to find out
what made them feel or act negatively. Try building them up with your
own positivism. Not everyone grows and learns at the same rate. If
the behavior continues or worsens or you feel your relationship with
them is nothing but a psychological drain, then fine, remove them
from your life.
Otherwise, just understand that nobody
is perfect, not even you and that you truly do:
“Live and learn, from fools and from
sages.” - Aerosmith
Everyone has at least one positive
quality. Be grateful for the people in your life. Don't just kick
them to the curb over one or two negative incidents. Maybe they'll
give you the same consideration, the next time you do something
stupid.
So kind and understanding an approach. I recently got defriended on Facebook by someone I've always liked in real life, just over a disagreement about an inflammatory cartoon he had posted. It's very sad when people won't tolerate any disagreement with their views. How do we learn anything new if everyone just agrees with us?
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