Wednesday, October 24, 2018

You are not that important


Ha ha ha It took me so long to figure this one out. I'm a speck. And yes, we have our contributions to make to the world. When we shine, those around us shine right along with us. When we're moody those around us reflect that as well. I get it. But seriously? You are not all that important. Neither am I. We are a very small part of the scheme of things. So stop putting so much pressure on yourself to be perfect. Admit to your imperfections and just work on them.

I look at society today and find it to be very self centered. People are overly obsessed with expressing themselves as individuals. It's fine, even healthy to like yourself. It's great to have an opinion. But it's more important to actually be kind, generous, courteous, etc. Do positive things. Make others happy. Express your sympathy when things go badly for someone. Just don't expect a medal for it. Because it's what you're supposed to do, Doing it doesn't make you a hero.

You're not that special. None of us are. Find some humility!

Sometimes, I blame Facebook. One example is those birthday reminders. How so? You feel guilty if you don't respond to them, don't you? You feel guilty if you miss thanking someone for responding to them as well. This mentality stretches into your personal life too, doesn't it? Folks, it's a nice thing to do but seriously? If someone forgets my birthday, I just figure they're busy with their own life. I don't take it personally. And if they do remember, I don't show up at their doorstep with a trophy.

And speaking of birthdays, I don't get or even want a party every birthday. Now it seems people aren't happy unless they not only get a party but receive every little wish their heart desires because they are all important, you know? And every birthday seems to have some specific present attached to it. If they don't get that specific thing, heaven help us. It's the end of life as we know it, apparently.

Here's another one. If your boyfriend asks you to marry him, he has to come up with a clever way. It's not enough that he loves you enough to ask. The ring has to be perfect. Your wedding has to be epic too. Everything has to be done just right so you have a story you can tell. And you need pictures of every little detail of your life. Heck, sometimes people demand them. And make sure those are picture perfect too. Get the right angle, the right background, cover every theme, every moment, etc. Who cares if they're an honest representation of your life as long as they make you look perfect?

And yes, it's important that people feel good about themselves. We should also be kind to our children so that they have a well adjusted personality. We should support their endeavors. But we can't make them happy all the time, just as we can't make ourselves happy all the time. We are not that fabulous. We're just human beings. We are not, nor will we ever be perfect, nor will any of our experiences be perfect.

Life is not a movie where things are solved in the space of 2 hours. It's a journey. Hopefully, a long one. Enjoy it for what it is. Don't try to impress anyone with it. Because, unless you're a serial killer or something, you are good enough just as you are Ya, it's cliché, but it's true.

And speaking of issues, it's OK to call someone you love out on their crap if they're heading in a direction that's bad for them and those around you. It doesn't mean you feel as if you're better than or any more important than they are. Don't feel guilty about being a caring individual. But you're still, not a hero. You're not that special. There are no medals for doing the right thing. It's what you're supposed to do. That's all.

I don't know how this happened to us. But we are at a point where living up to our own over-inflated expectations is killing us. The pressure involved with being a human being in this society is enormous. Oh my gosh, people, just live. Enjoy your life. Forget about societal standards. Just be nice to each other. Because for all other intents and purposes...

You are not that important. Neither am I. None of us are. So just relax and be at peace with being you!

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