Ha ha ha It took me so long to figure
this one out. I'm a speck. And yes, we have our contributions to make
to the world. When we shine, those around us shine right along with
us. When we're moody those around us reflect that as well. I get it.
But seriously? You are not all that important. Neither am I. We are a
very small part of the scheme of things. So stop putting so much
pressure on yourself to be perfect. Admit to your imperfections and
just work on them.
I look at society today and find it to
be very self centered. People are overly obsessed with expressing
themselves as individuals. It's fine, even healthy to like yourself.
It's great to have an opinion. But it's more important to actually be
kind, generous, courteous, etc. Do positive things. Make others
happy. Express your sympathy when things go badly for someone. Just
don't expect a medal for it. Because it's what you're supposed to do,
Doing it doesn't make you a hero.
You're not that special. None of us
are. Find some humility!
Sometimes, I blame Facebook. One
example is those birthday reminders. How so? You feel guilty if you
don't respond to them, don't you? You feel guilty if you miss
thanking someone for responding to them as well. This mentality
stretches into your personal life too, doesn't it? Folks, it's a nice
thing to do but seriously? If someone forgets my birthday, I just
figure they're busy with their own life. I don't take it personally.
And if they do remember, I don't show up at their doorstep with a
trophy.
And speaking of birthdays, I don't get
or even want a party every birthday. Now it seems people aren't happy
unless they not only get a party but receive every little wish their
heart desires because they are all important, you know? And every
birthday seems to have some specific present attached to it. If they
don't get that specific thing, heaven help us. It's the end of life
as we know it, apparently.
Here's another one. If your boyfriend
asks you to marry him, he has to come up with a clever way. It's not
enough that he loves you enough to ask. The ring has to be perfect.
Your wedding has to be epic too. Everything has to be done just right
so you have a story you can tell. And you need pictures of every
little detail of your life. Heck, sometimes people demand them. And
make sure those are picture perfect too. Get the right angle, the
right background, cover every theme, every moment, etc. Who cares if
they're an honest representation of your life as long as they make
you look perfect?
And yes, it's important that people
feel good about themselves. We should also be kind to our children so
that they have a well adjusted personality. We should support their
endeavors. But we can't make them happy all the time, just as we
can't make ourselves happy all the time. We are not that fabulous.
We're just human beings. We are not, nor will we ever be perfect, nor
will any of our experiences be perfect.
Life is not a movie where things are
solved in the space of 2 hours. It's a journey. Hopefully, a long
one. Enjoy it for what it is. Don't try to impress anyone with it.
Because, unless you're a serial killer or something, you are good
enough just as you are Ya, it's cliché, but it's true.
And speaking of issues, it's OK to call
someone you love out on their crap if they're heading in a direction
that's bad for them and those around you. It doesn't mean you feel as
if you're better than or any more important than they are. Don't feel
guilty about being a caring individual. But you're still, not a hero.
You're not that special. There are no medals for doing the right
thing. It's what you're supposed to do. That's all.
I don't know how this happened to us.
But we are at a point where living up to our own over-inflated
expectations is killing us. The pressure involved with being a human
being in this society is enormous. Oh my gosh, people, just live.
Enjoy your life. Forget about societal standards. Just be nice to
each other. Because for all other intents and purposes...
You are not that important. Neither am
I. None of us are. So just relax and be at peace with being you!
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